I Am Not The Grinch, But I Do Lack Christmas Cheer – Spoonie Edition

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I promise you, I am not the Grinch. Though you might think I am if you see me around Christmas time. I am one of those people, yes, the one who skips through the radio stations so fast, so they don’t accidently land on the Christmas station. I walk into the stores and feel like the holidays is being shoved down my throat. I roll my eyes when I keep hearing the same song over and over. I almost want to run out of the stores. It ends up feeling like you cannot hide from it. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy to see people happy, but I just can’t be “so happy”.

Unfortunately, I cannot say I feel full of glee and jolly at all. My life is the farthest thing from a Hallmark Christmas movie. I cannot shake the feeling that something is broken inside me that has created this distant relationship with this holiday. I have never been able to be so cheerful like everyone else. What is wrong with me?

Some of it gives you the impression that you are obligated to be happy! Then when you see all this cheer and you don’t feel it inside, it ends up leaving you disappointed. While almost validating that voice in your head that something is wrong with you.

I want to be happy, I want to love Christmas songs and wear ugly sweaters like the rest! I would love to finally have that Christmas spirit, but I simply don’t. It just doesn’t work…

I’ve tried forcing it for so long, that I am just tired of it. Every single year I tell myself this will be the year, and it’s not. Something always happens to ensure it. I just end up feeling so pressured!

I know my health creates somewhat of a barrier with me feeling the joy I should during the holidays. Although I tell myself to not let my disease define me and dictate my happiness. Christmas just seems to not apply to this statement for me.

What goes through my head? It’s closer to the end of the year… It has become a reflection of where the heck did the time go? Mentally, that’s hard. Because when you are chronically ill, you always hope that the next Christmas will be different. That it will be better. That I am finally going to feel better. Once I get that, I feel that radiance of joy inside my soul, just like others.

The holidays are tough. We push ourselves to do more than we should, get anxiety about purchasing gifts for those with money you don’t have. I worry about where I will be eating and praying they didn’t cross contaminate my food, because “no, a little will still hurt me”.

I hope no one thinks I am a Grinch or ungrateful, because I’m truly neither. But I am going to be honest with the world… I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. The exaggeration of happiness people have is just something you won’t find in me. Don’t assume I am just angry at the world, I am fighting a battle constantly, one that is never ending. Please do know, I am trying my best and your understanding would be appreciated.

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  1. The holiday season can be so draining. If we didn’t have our son I would quite happily hibernate over Christmas and new year. Although I do love the food and spending time with my family but it comes at a cost.


  2. The holiday season can be so draining. If we didn’t have our son I would happily hibernate over Christmas and new year. Although I do like the food and spending time with family I don’t see that often but it does come at a cost.


    1. It truly does come with a cost! Sorry you go through this too.


  3. The holiday season can be so draining. If we didn’t have our son I would more than happily hibernate and forget all about Christmas and new year. Although I do enjoy spending some time with family I haven’t seen in a while and the food but it comes at a cost.

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  4. Nikki says:

    The holidays can be a hard time for us for sure. And stressful. I certainly managed to buy cheap presents with money I do not have. I recommend with both have a damn fine self-care day. A nice bath, And then maybe binge some Netflix.

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    1. So true! I need more self care days for sure.

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  5. I’m sorry it’s not a joyful season for you, but I understand completely. I love Christmas but I’m struggling with a lot of the same things. Don’t feel guilty, or let anyone call you a Grinch. It’s not your thing, and that’s perfectly alright. 💕

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